Job Description for a Man

What’s a Man to Do?

Introduction – Would Someone Show Me the “Box Top?”

_ The What = “Step Up” in Love (Ephesians 5:21-33)
_ The How = A Man’s Top 3 Priorities

1. Provision
2. Protection
3. Nurture

“But if any provide not for his own, and specially for those of his own house, he hath denied the faith, and is worse than an infidel.”
1 Timothy 5:8

“Likewise, ye husbands, dwell with them according to knowledge, giving honour unto the wife, as unto the weaker vessel, and as being heirs together of the grace of life; that your prayers be not hindered.
1 Peter 3:7

(For if a man know not how to rule his own house, how shall he take care of the church of God?)
1 Timothy 3:5

How to “Step Up” In Love to Lead Your Wife and Family

I. Husbands hold primary responsibility for the financial provision of their families. 1 Timothy 5:8

_ The Role = The Family “CFO/Bank President”
_ The Responsibility = Shelter, food, clothes, financial training
_ The Practical Outworking = 5 Objectives

1. Do Honest Work
2. Honor God First
3. Live Within Your Means
4. Prepare for the Future
5. Train Your Children

_ The Core Values = To Model and Teach

1. Work Ethic
2. Stewardship of Money and Time
3. Responsibility and Discipline
4. Enjoyment and Generosity

II. Husbands hold primary responsibility for the spiritual development and protection of their families. (1 Peter 3:7; Ephesians 6:4; Deuteronomy 6:4-9)

_ The Role = The Family “Priest”

_ The Responsibility = Come before God on behalf of your family and come before your family on behalf of God.

_ The Practical Outworking = 5 Objectives

1. Set the Pace Personally
2. Know the Spiritual Condition of Your Wife and Children
3. Pray For Them and With Them Regularly
4. Insure Biblical Instruction Occurs At Home and At Church
5. Make Experiencing God and Loving Each Other (not morality) Your Aim

_ The Core Values = To Model and Teach

1. Dependency Evidenced By Prayer/Fasting
2. Faith In God and His Word
3. A Service and Outreach Orientation
4. Progressive Growth In Personal Holiness

III. Husbands hold primary responsibility for the relational health and welfare of their families. (1 Timothy 5:5; Ephesians 6:4; 1 Peter 3:7)

_ The Role = The Family “GM/Coach”

_ The Responsibility = To manage the household in a manner that produces love, obedience, and respect toward God and one another.

_ The Practical Outworking = 5 Objectives

1. The Marriage Covenant Is Verbalized and Celebrated
2. Time Is Scheduled To Develop Marriage and Family Relationships
3. Structure and Boundaries Are Provided To Insure Family Relationships Take Priority Over Outside Demands
4. Communication Is Built Into the Fabric and Rhythm of the Family Schedule
5. Consequences Are Exercised Fairly, Firmly, and Lovingly Among All Family Members

_ The Core Values = To Model and Teach

1. Acceptance - Unconditionally
2. Affirmation – Specifically and Consistently
3. Accountability – Filled With Truth and Grace
4. Conflict Resolution – “Speaking the Truth In Love”